Imagine a king or a queen… god/goddess, perhaps.. Some external deeply grounded and divinely balanced caring energy.. It can be masculine or feminine or neither or both… imagine this energy caring for you… taking care of all things.. Any need or desire of yours is granted by this beautiful being.

Whenever you are sad, this is who wraps you in a hug and whispers, “Everything will be alright.” Whenever you’re feeling down on yourself, this is who lifts your chin in their hand, looks you in the eyes, and tells you of your own magnificence.

Sit in this feeling for a handful of moments.. this sensation of everything you’ve ever wanted being taken care of by another.

We are often told the story that what we want and need is external to ourselves.. This is outdated programming from a childhood that lacked initiation rites and rituals into adulthood to mark the change of power from parents to that internal power within ourselves.

Inside most all of us in western culture is that craving of being exquisitely cared for, just waiting for the perfect person, god, goddess, or savior to come in and make it bloom into full expression.

There can be a subtle layer of depression and longing that comes from the fact that this never happens, or if it does the person or external source of this care isn’t perfect.

There is a mourning process that comes along with the realization that we must provide this care to ourselves. (This is why these initiation rituals and rites of passage are so needed for young adults as they enter into maturity.. the rite of passage creates the ceremonial space for us to move through the whole gamut of emotional experience as we transition into holding our own power.)

There is SO much we receive from external sources, yes, from community and partners and children and pets and family… but it will never soak all the way into the core of us.. To that interior kernel that clings to the story that all will be well when that person or being comes who can relieve us of it all.

This can lead to a life of seeking, seeking, seeking and never feeling satisfied… Like what you seek is just around the corner and the next podcast, book, webinar, class, course, workshop, or guru will be the key to finding that mythical lost ark of contentment in life, of power…

The hidden truth of the healing process is that we must provide this care to ourselves.

(If this is sad or depressing, keep reading..)

We GET to LEARN how to provide this to ourselves.. We get to be shown by the universe, by life, what EXACTLY we need, what we yearn for on that deep level… so we can build the resources and the tools and the spaciousness and the life force in order to give that gift to ourselves.

Some of my FAVORITE sessions/ceremonies that I guide my 1:1 clients through are the masculine and feminine healing ceremonies and initiations.

We transform the projections and expectations we have from the masculine and/or feminine beings external to ourselves, to care for us in the ways we’ve been craving.. We alchemize the pain that masculine or feminine beings have placed in our lives in the past… and we tap into those deliciously powerful, grounded, capable, divinely caring parts of ourselves that are able to take the reigns and give us that experience of everything we could ever want, need, desire being handled beautifully.

We work through the grief that comes up as a result of this shift of perspective.. The grief and the longing that we wish we didn’t have to do it for ourselves… we wish there was that one magical external force or being that could just take it all away and make it all better… and we come out on the other side of this ceremonial experience empowered, cleared, refreshed, and resourced in a way we never have been before. Initiated.

This then can trickle out into our relationships with those closest to us.. Our partners, our parents, our community, our children…

Here’s what Ali had to say after our 1:1 session together navigating this profound healing work:

“I feel like this was a huge moment of opening up my heart. I didn’t realize it was in such a protective cage! I don’t feel like that walking around… when I’m walking around I feel pretty loving. But I didn’t realize that it wasn’t really close to what my heart is capable of. I feel really grateful for this moment to unlock that and make that connection with such a powerful part of myself. I’m looking forward to developing that more. I’ve been focusing so much on reclaiming my power, that I didn’t realize I was ready to start reclaiming my love. I don’t know what I was thinking was going to come out during this session, but this is something really valuable.”

It makes sense to me, that if there is a wounded inner part of us waiting for someone or something to come along and rescue us from all of the most painful experiences of being a human, we wouldn't fully allow our love or our light to shine out.

You never know how this work will impact the most surprising areas of your life. But the coolest aspect of all of this is that no matter what, it’s unlocking more energy, more flow, more radiance, more aliveness, more groundedness, more love, more peace…

It all adds up over time to more life force in general, and with that, you become unstoppable and can literally do anything you set your mind to :)

And who doesn’t want those kind of superpowers? :)

If you’re interested in walking the healing path with someone by your side to help you navigate your own initiation into your true empowered self, please do reach out!

I’d love to chat with you about working 1:1 in my signature 6 month container called Pathway To Passion.

The initiation outlined above is just one of many we can navigate together during the 6 months, to get you grounded more firmly in your power, your radiance, and your passion for life :) Excited to see some of you there <3